Area's of Expertise
COACHING SERVICE ACHIEVING LASTING CHANGE
Below are some of the common targeted area's: limiting beliefs, behavioral conditionings, unhealthy emotions , unhealthy triggers.
SYMPTOMS ARE a Result OF LIMITING BELIEFS and its CONDITIONINGS...
Symptoms are as follows: conflict, unease, unhappiness, unworthiness, I'm not good enough, easily triggered by anything exposed in environment. Self-sabotaging behaviors, feelings and emotions. Patterns of behavior that are unlike you, Feeling lost, unfulfilled, Societal conditioning and or religious conditionings that does not suit who you are. Types of trauma, abuse. Feelings of guilt, remorse and or sadness. Lacking confidence, unable to perform as one would hope: sports/professional environment. Issues with attracting healthy relationships either friendly or intimately.
The associated patterns, thoughts, behaviors and choices that have shaped your lifestyle up to this point can be completely unlearned.
Common Limiting Beliefs
First, get in touch with any beliefs you have that could sabotage you, hinder you, hold you back, keep you from having what you want, severely restrict your opportunities, and lead to such debilitating problems as procrastination or an over-concern with what others think of you.
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Mistakes and failure are bad.
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I'm not good enough.
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Change is difficult.
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I'm not important.
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What makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me.
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Nothing I do is good enough.
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I'm not capable.
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I'm not competent.
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I'm inadequate.
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If I make a mistake or fail I'll be rejected.
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If I don’t complete something I can’t fail at it.
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I'm a failure.
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I'm stupid.
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I'm not worthy.
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I'll never get what I want.
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I'm powerless.
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People aren't interested in what I have to say.
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What I have to say isn't important.
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It's dangerous to have people put their attention on me (something bad will happen).
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What makes me good enough or important is doing things perfectly.
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Conditioning: Fear associated with criticism and judgment.
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Conditioning: Fear associated with not meeting expectations.
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Conditioning: Fear associated with people putting their attention on me.
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Conditioning: Fear associated with rejection
"I am not good enough" Limiting Beliefs
I am not good enough beliefs are concluded from first person narrative after the events have transpired. A person is constantly good enough nothing ever can make the good enough than what they are. If we are talking skills, talents, abilities than yes we can evolve those.
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what makes me good enough=
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I'm not good enough.
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I'm not good enough if I fail
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I'm not good enough if I'm unsuccessful
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What makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me.
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Nothing I do is good enough.
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I'm only good enough if I succeed
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I'm not good enough unless I succeed
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I don't want them to know I'm not good enough
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I don't want anyone to know I'm not good enough
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I have to prove I am good enough
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What makes me good enough is I'm successful
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I had to earn it to be good enough
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What makes me important is I'm good enough
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Failure makes me not good enough
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What makes me good enough or important is doing things perfectly.
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Conditioning: Fear associated with criticism and judgment.
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Conditioning: Fear associated with not meeting expectations.
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Conditioning: Fear associated with people putting their attention on me.
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Conditioning: Fear associated with rejection
Fear of failure
Keenan has help me conquer this, he had me realize that the events, experiences that I have experienced in my past were- just that only experiences. For most of my life I was angry, sad that I could never accomplish anything. I would keep coming up short in everything I have tried. Clearing the belief* Fear of Failure helped me understand that the “outcome” does not define who I am or what I am able to do. Most of my life I have allowed circumstances and experiences define who I am – that is unhealthy behavior pattern to experience. I realize now who I am without that pattern in place – what a relief. I take action, be myself – I am fearless. He helped me to understand more about myself in 5 sessions than I have in all my lifetime.
Veronica B.
Depression
A client can literally change their "current" mental state by eliminating the "limiting beliefs & its conditionings" that cause them to be Depressed. The state of depressed is experienced very similar to how a person experiences fear, anxiety and stress. Identify Root Cause...
My work, focuses on identifying the "cause" of the pattern, loop. Once this is done we work to make distinctions, decondition, de-stimuli(triggers) and eliminate any behaviors, attitudes, thoughts, feelings, emotions associated...
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I’m powerless.
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I’m not good enough.
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I’m not deserving.
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I’m inadequate.
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I’m not important.
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I’m worthless.
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I’m not lovable.
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Who I am is not okay.
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I have no value.
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There’s something wrong with me.
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Happiness doesn’t last.
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It’s not safe to be myself.
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Life is hard, painful, a struggle, and stressful.
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Being responsible is a burden.
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I have to be perfect or people won’t accept me.
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I can’t have what I want.
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I don’t matter.
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Conditioning: Feeling Hopeless
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Conditioning: Feeling Useless
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Conditioning: Feeling Depressed
Stimuli Process
The Stimulus Process works by assisting you to make a distinction between the original real cause of the emotion and the events that just happened to be occurring at the time.
An example of this would be feeling fear, anxiety or stress when making a mistake, being rejected, judged or someone getting anger with us.
Keenan Van Zile takes the client through the stimulus process, they distinguish that making mistakes, being criticized, not meeting expectations, being rejected does not induce those feelings, emotions or reactions.
The result: client realizes that he/she can experience life without dreading to feel these unhealthy emotions. Will take on new challenges without fearing limitation - rewarding!
Continued: Stimuli List
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anxiety
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fear
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feeling fear, feel fear
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feeling anxiety, feel anxiety
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feeling stress, feel stress
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procrastination
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sadness
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shame
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guilt
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unhappiness
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negativity
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negative self talk
The purpose of using alternative interpretations is to realize that the meaning you gave an event is not “the truth,” but only one of several possible interpretations. This part of the process helps the client connect that they are no longer "the truth" of what was experienced in the past experiences, circumstances. Thus their future is not limited.
Possible Interpretations
Alternative interpretations help us to realize that a "meaning" is only one of many possible ways to view an event and is not the truth.
It's my job to come up with several alternative interpretations to have the client understand that the meaning* was not actually apart of the event, experience, circumstance.
The limiting belief is composed of clients series* of events, experiences, circumstances over time usually stemming from the past.
The client will distinguishes that they could not "see" the belief in the world. Distinguish that they could not "feel"that the belief is in the world as well.
When we recognize that something we have held as a belief (the truth) is, in fact, only one of several alternative meanings of what actually occurred (a truth)
The client realizes that we never saw the belief in the world, and when we realize the events had no meaning until we gave them one, the belief literally disappears.
Making Distinctions
Majority of issues, problems in a clients life is because they failed to make distinctions. Great healing, change happens when Keenan Van Zile helps the client through this for the first time. No matter the severity the process is highly empowering...
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Fear of Failure: A series of failures or similar outcomes where client fails to distinguish from one event to next.
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Occurring Stress / Anxiety Failure to distinguish from the meaning we give to the events. The limiting beliefs & unhealthy conditionings continue the occuring cycle.
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Conditioned behavior the client has behaved from past beliefs in present tense. Distinguish from stimuli to the meaning that was given...
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Any other negative sense, feelings, emotions are a result of series of failures to distinguish past beliefs & conditionings to present tense...
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Working with Keenan Van Zile has helped me tremendously in getting rid of my negative state of mind and the excess thoughts that always came with it. He worked with me in changing the behavioral pattern and the belief & thinking that held that together. Now whenever I experience moments that may not be the best I do not become negative or feel bad. The person who I was before I worked with Keenan allowed “outcomes” to define myself which led to depletion of energy levels. I now understand how to process outcomes smoother than making it personal, adding judgment or being overly negative. I must say I am very thankful for these sessions as it has been life changing.